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Who Are Your Five?
Melissa Schnell • September 2, 2023
Who Are Your Five?
You’ve probably heard the phrase “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with” -- which is often attributed to motivational speaker Jim Rohn. Whether you agree with that exact assessment or not, we can all agree that the people around us do influence us.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself about the people around you:
Who are the five people you spend the most time with?
Is Jesus one of them?
Who would count you among their five people?
Do you point these people toward Christ?
Do they point you toward Christ?
I ask myself these questions occasionally to evaluate how the people I spend the most time with are affecting me. While we often cannot choose our family, coworkers, or classmates, we can choose our friends, and we can choose which voices to listen to.
Proverbs, my favorite book of the Bible, includes many verses about how our friendships can impact our character and the course of our lives. Here are a few:
The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. (Proverbs 12:26)
Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. (Proverbs 13:20)
When you interact with a friend, you are helping to shape the person he or she will be tomorrow; and he or she is doing the same for you. Hopefully, you don’t mind the thought of becoming more like your friends, because that’s what’s likely to happen.
We all want to be wise, so it makes sense to spend time with and befriend wise people. We can also look for friends who have and show the Fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). While no earthly friend is perfect, Jesus is. The more time we spend with Him, the more we will be like Him.
What a friend we have in Jesus!
By Melissa Landon Schnell
Melissa is an editor at automation.com, an IBC member, a cyclist, and a book lover. She lives in Lexington with her husband Daykin, dog Zoey, and cat Scooter.
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The woman at the well has one of the best testimonies ever! And maybe, just maybe, that is why the whole town believed. After talking with Jesus, The woman left her water jar, went into town, and told the people, “Come, see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Messiah?” They left the town and made their way to him (John 4:28-30 CSB). She told everyone she could that Jesus told her everything she ever did. It was that simple. Jesus was clearly a prophet, a man of God. He knew EVERYTHING she had done. Yet, He didn’t condemn. He didn’t avoid her or treat her like an outcast. He sought her out, gently told her the truth and accepted her for who she was. This same Jesus continues to do the same today. He KNOWS us. He gently tells us where we are wrong – not to judge us but to help us. He LOVES us UNCONDITIONALLY. Dear one, if you feel judged, condemned and worthless, KNOW that is not from God. God’s enemy is seeking to keep you from Unconditional Love. Unconditional Love is Jesus. Child of God, you don’t need eloquent words to tell other people about Jesus. Follow the Woman at the Well’s example. Tell everyone that God knows all of your wrongs and shortcomings, that He loves you just as you are, and He loves them too. And maybe, just maybe, your town’s story will end the same as her town’s: Now many Samaritans from that town believed in him because of what the woman said when she testified, “He told me everything I ever did.” So when the Samaritans came to him, they asked him to stay with them, and he stayed there two days. Many more believed because of what he said. And they told the woman, “We no longer believe because of what you said, since we have heard for ourselves and know that this really is the Savior of the world.” (John 4:39-42) By LaRaine Rice
Lately, the worship service has been especially powerful and moving. It has truly been worship; and I don’t know about everyone else, but I can’t wait to go. Jesus spoke about such worship with the Samaritan woman in John 4: Jesus told her, “Believe me, woman, an hour is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem. You Samaritans worship what you do not know. We worship what we do know, because salvation is from the Jews. But an hour is coming, and is now here, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in Spirit and in truth. Yes, the Father wants such people to worship him. God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in Spirit and in truth.” (John 4:21-24 CSB) Many, many people are worshipping in Spirit and in truth. It’s amazing. Sometimes, I just don’t want it to end. But it must. It must end -- and not just so there’s time for the offering or announcements. The reason it must end is well summarized in an early contemporary Christian song by Amy Grant. “I'd love to live on a mountain top fellowshipping with the Lord; I'd love to stand on a mountain top 'cause I love to feel my spirit soar. But I've got to come down from the mountain top to the people in the valley below; they'll never know that they can go to the mountain of the Lord. Now praising the Father is a good thing to do, to worship the Trinity in spirit and truth. But if we worshipped all of the time, well, there would be no one to lead the blind.” (from the 1977 album “Amy Grant”) You see, our times of corporate worship must end because everyone of us was made to worship God in Spirit and in truth. We leave our houses of worship to bring more with us the next week. Today, prayerfully consider who you can invite to worship with you. Bring them with you. Then, rejoice in and worship the Lord with reckless abandon not worrying about what your friend thinks. Mountain top living is better when there are others with you to enjoy the View! By LaRaine Rice
“How is it that you, a Jew, ask for a drink from me, a Samaritan woman?” she asked him. For Jews do not associate with Samaritans. (John 4:9 CSB) Sometimes we look back on Biblical times as if they were the good old days. This verse alone, however, reminds us that people had a hard time getting along then just as they do today. It is very easy to not associate with people today. We unfollow, block and cancel those that don’t agree with us. If we don’t want to listen to them, we don’t have to. And if we want to tell everyone else how wrong they are, we hide behind our keyboard and post our opinions. So, how was it that Jesus, a Jew, asked a random Samaritan woman for a drink? Why did He choose to associate with her? Couldn’t this association cost Jesus His reputation so early in His ministry? Jesus answered, “If you knew the gift of God, and who is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would ask him, and he would give you living water.” (John 4:10) Simply put, Jesus was there to give her Living water; He was there to give Life. He saw her for who she was and initiated the conversation. The Kingdom of God was near, and He knew she belonged in the Kingdom. Why did He associate with her? She was worthy of God’s love and redemption. Why is it then, that we choose NOT to associate with others? Why do we choose to alienate others, even Christians? Why do we think that our political opinions and our beliefs deserve to be shared even if it hinders the Kingdom of God? Christ Follower, you are called to associate with everyone. You are called to share the Living Water with a thirsty world. You are meant to view everyone through Jesus’ eyes; all are worthy of God’s love and redemption. Today, ask God if you are alienating people or associating with people. By LaRaine Rice
There always seem to be monumental, insurmountable tasks in the movies. Soon, a hero will emerge with a plan and inspire people to face the challenge to carry it out. The hero may do most of the work but still needs others to reach their goal. Everyone follows the plan because they trust the planner. Jesus did not leave this world without a plan. Just before He ascended into heaven, He gave the 11 apostles and other followers directions: “All authority has been given to me in heaven and on earth. Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe everything I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:18-20 CSB) He even gave them some specifics, “ You will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come on you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth” (Acts 1:8 CSB). I wonder if John had these directions in mind when he penned the story of the lady at the well. You see, Jesus had just come from Jerusalem. As John 4 opens, the disciples are busy baptizing more disciples, and He leaves Judah. On the way to His destination, He went through Samaria. He stopped at the well and began to share the news that the Kingdom of God had arrived – sharing it with the first Samaritan that He met. From the beginning of His ministry, Jesus followed the same plan He would later give John and the other disciples. Perhaps, like me, you wonder if John shared the details of this story knowing that Jesus, the Planner, lived out the plan. Jesus laid out a plan for the disciples and for us to follow in the monumental, seemingly insurmountable task of telling the world about Him. Will you follow the plan and the Planner today? By LaRaine Rice
Seasonal Fruit Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. (Psalm 1:1-3) I’m so grateful that God’s Word is living and active. Though I’ve read this passage many times, something new captured my attention when it came up in my reading plan. It was the phrase “in its season” – referring to the bearing of fruit. As I read those words, and even now as I write, several inches of snow and ice have buried much of our state under a blanket of glistening white, forcing a halt to many activities and an abrupt shift for most of us into a slower gear. Nothing outside is bearing fruit at the moment. As believers with the Holy Spirit inside us, we are rightfully expected to bear fruit. It’s what identifies us as followers of Christ, and it’s the natural effect of abiding in Him. In the passage above, the psalmist is describing one who is blessed, walking in wisdom, delighting in and meditating on the law of God continually. He says this person is like a healthy tree planted near water. And yet, even in these ideal circumstances, the fruit comes in its season . There’s a cycle to it, and that’s by design. I see this pattern in my own life. When we joined a new church family, it was ages before I understood what my purpose was in that space. In deep suffering or trial, there were times when the most I could manage was to get out of bed and stumble through the day. What if those times of trial or hard waiting are like snow on top of the green? The promise is that He will bring the fruit in season , at the right time. What about you? Are you in a season of fruitfulness in your walk? Thank God for this! We should never take for granted the opportunity He gives us to participate in His kingdom work. But if your answer is no or you’re unsure, let me encourage you to continue to walk in faithfulness. Get up, be with God’s people, lean into His Word, ask Him for direction. He is faithful. Things are happening under the ground, even if there’s snow on top. Plant yourself by a stream of living water and trust Him… the fruit will come. By Lori Barkley Lori and her husband Jim attend the Armstrong Mill campus where she serves as a deacon. They have two daughters, Brynn and Katy.
