Love Language

When our youngest granddaughter came for Grandmom Camp, she made sure there was no confusion about her love language. At the age of five, she came through the front door saying, “Grandmom, my love language is receiving gifts, so I need to get a toy from Walmart and an outfit from Justice (a clothing store for young girls).”
In 1990, Gary Chapman published a book entitled The Five Love Languages, which quickly became quite popular – especially in expressing love appropriately with one’s spouse. The book has been adapted for men, for singles, for the military, for communicating love to your teenagers – and probably more. The five love languages developed in the book were: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
The premise is that we need to take time to understand the people we love and what feeds their soul. One could break the bank buying expensive gifts for a loved one and get no response, because all that loved one really wanted was a hug – or hearing you say, “I’m SO proud of you!” And if you’re having trouble determining what someone’s love language is, ask them!
And that leads to my bigger point: since God is love, do you ever wonder what His love language is? Have you asked Him?
This may be a round-about way of getting there, but I first checked out what God doesn’t like – and even found a list in Proverbs 6:16-19. These are seven things he actually hates: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.
Therefore, if we want to embody the love language God most appreciates, we will live with humility, honesty, goodness, and peace – and be a valuer of human life and a seeker of that which is good. And just in case you think you can’t do that perfectly, you are correct – you can’t, unless you are filled with the fruit of His Spirit. Only then can you speak God’s love language: living a life filled with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
Take some time to talk with God about how you are expressing your love for Him – and if it’s in a way that pleases Him? Are you working really hard trying to earn your salvation? Are you wearing yourself out pleasing people rather than God? OR are you relying on God’s Holy Spirit to be your strength as you seek to joyfully speak the love language that pleases Him most?
By Judy Shrout









